The Burden of Un-Forgiveness by Patrick Miron



Today’s Thought

by Patrick Miron

A meditation as we grow older

“By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”  John.13:35

 The Burden of Un-forgiveness

As I consider this topic, the visual image that first comes to my mind is my hand pointing a finger in accusing someone of some perceived-offence against me. This is a telling image of the condition of my soul, because the very instant that I am doing this, that same hand has three fingers pointing back at me. And how very appropriate, how very telling that is.

Being a self-professed Christian, I claim to “know Jesus as my Personal Lord and savior.” But do I really?  … Do I just give Jesus “lip-service” or do I actually {at least make a sincere effort to try to} KNOW, Love, Serve and fully obey Him in all that I do?

Isaiah 43: verses 7 & 21 “[7] everyone who is called by my name, whom I created for my glory, whom I formed and made.” & [21] the people whom I formed for myself that they might declare my praise.”

Question for myself… SELF, do I by my actions, by my life choices give to My God ALL of the Glory, all of the obedience, all the humility that He seeks from me?

Below is perhaps the best known prayer in the entire word. It contains the very foundation – the command of God’s own,  if rightly understood, most basic expectation for our salvation, IF fully and correctly applied to our own lives.   Do we see as we should that … Life is a ‘”God-Test.”

Mathew 6: [9] Pray then like this: Our Father who art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. [10] Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, On earth as it is in heaven. [11] Give us this day our daily bread; [12] And forgive us our debts, As we also have forgiven our debtors; [13] And lead us not into temptation, But deliver us from evil. [14] For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father also will forgive you; [15] but if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses”

What does this teaching mean to me; to my life, my salvation? Well it means exactly what it says. Here Jesus Himself is quoted as teaching us that He is willing to forgive us anything and everything, But and IF only we in turn forgive everyone for everything that they have done against us. And we are to expect in Divine Justice, to be forgiven for our sins, our transgressions, only to the very same degree that we choose to forgive everyone else.

Luke.6:[41] Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? [42] Or how can you say to your brother, `Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother’s eye”

Question for self SELF, is this teaching consistent with other bible teachings? Can we {anyone} presume to dictate to God how He must, how He will save them?   …. On what authority might one make such an assumption?

Rom.13: [10] Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfilling of the law”

John.14: [23] Jesus answered him, “If a man loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him.

Matt.5 Verses 43 to 46 “[43] “You have heard that it was said, `You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ [44] But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, [45] so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. [46] For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?

Mark.12 Verses 30 to 31 “[30] and you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ [31] The second is this, `You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”

Luke.6 Verses 27 to 33 “[27] “But I say to you that hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, [28] bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. [29] To him who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also; and from him who takes away your coat do not withhold even your shirt. [30] Give to everyone who begs from you; and of him who takes away your goods do not ask them again. [31] And as you wish that men would do to you, do so to them. [32] “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. [33] And if you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same.

John.13 Verses 34 to 35 “[34] A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. [35] By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”

Question for self SELF, Is Gods Mercy unlimited or without conditions {Is everyone saved?}

Ps.23: [6] Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I shall dwell in the house of the LORD forever.

My friend have you ever been exposed to the One Infallible Rule for right understanding of the Bible?

Never Ever; can, may or DOES

One verse, passage or teaching have the power or authority to

Invalidate, make void or override another Verse, passage or teaching:

Were this even the slightest possibility; [it’s NOT!] it would render the entire Bible useless to teach or learn Christ Faith”   

Ps.119:  [156] Great is thy mercy, O LORD; give me {eternal} life according to thy justice.

Isa.30: [18] Therefore the LORD waits to be gracious to you; therefore he exalts himself to show mercy to you. For the LORD is a God of justice; blessed are all those who wait for him

Lam.2: [2] The Lord has destroyed without mercy all the habitations of Jacob;
in his wrath he has broken down the strongholds of the daughter of Judah;
he has brought down to the ground in dishonor the kingdom and its rulers.

4Ezra.1: [25] Because you have forsaken me, I also will forsake you. When you beg mercy of me, I will show you no mercy.

Matt.5: [7] “Blessed are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.

Matt.18: [33] and should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’

Luke.1: [50] And his mercy is on those who fear him from generation to generation

Luke.10: [37] He said {replied}, “The one who showed mercy on him.” And Jesus said to him, “Go and do likewise.”

Jas.2: [13] For judgment is without mercy to one who has shown no mercy; yet mercy triumphs over judgment.

Question for self SELF: What then is the “burden of un-forgiveness?”

It seems very clear, very evident in the bible that God who can be defined briefly as “All Good Things Perfected” does indeed set conditions for our salvation {whether we know them or not, and whether we accept them or not has no relevance, no effect on our eternal –life.} … by asking ourselves are “goodness and fairness good things?” And of course they are, we can know that God has to determine our Eternal life based on Not what we choose to believe or what we choose to accept {for whatever reasons”} No! God will, because God must, pass Judgment upon each of us based on what He God has made possible for us to know, to believe, to practice. Why? Because doing so is both “fair and just.” Doing so is God being GOD.

That then is the burden that we can, and we must choose to create for ourselves…. {It is our freewill choice as is heaven and hell}; a choice each of us must make for ourselves. And that means that God has to keep His Word, to forgive each of us ONLY to the same-degree that we freely choose to forgive everyone, for everything bad they have done to us. Matthew 6:12.

Deut.30: [19] I call heaven and earth to witness against you this day, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse; therefore choose life, that you and your descendants may live” … Amen!       

A final thought: This does not mean that we must “Like” everyone. No, only that we are modeling Christ love for us, and must love everyone.  …. Love is a conscious decision, much more than an emotion.  Forgiveness begins with forgiving ourselves  

 This is such a critical issue that it MIGHT {????} well effect one’s Eternal salvation.

God Bless you!



Because we live in a time where skeptism is not only ramped; but down right necessary; I’m adding a further teaching that proves the above:

Gospel: MT 18:21–35

Peter approached Jesus and asked him,
“Lord, if my brother sins against me,
how often must I forgive him?
As many as seven times?”

{Inserted by PJM}

Numbers in the bible are often a teaching; a belief in and of themselves. For example the number seven stands for “completeness, fulfillment, and or perfection”

From :

SEVEN:   Spiritual perfection and fullness or completion.  It is the number of Covenant and of the Holy Spirit.

  • Seven is the second perfect number.
  • In Hebrew seven is shevah (shebah) from the root shava (shaba or sheba), meaning “to be full.”
  • God rested on the seventh day (Saturday) after Creation [Genesis 2:2]
  • To swear an oath in Hebrew is “to seven oneself.”
  • There are seven gifts of the Holy Spirit (CCC#1831; Isaiah 11:1)
  • The sacred Menorah has seven branches (six on each side of a central shaft) and seven cup shaped lamps for the olive oil
  • There were seven classes of furniture in the Tabernacle: Bronze sacrificial Altar, Bronze Laver, Golden Menorah, Golden Table of the Bread of the Presence, Golden Altar of Incense, Ark of the Covenant and the Mercy-seat/Seat of Atonement.
  • The Tabernacle was built in six days and dedicated on the seventh [Exodus 40:17]
  • It took Solomon seven years to build the Temple in Jerusalem. [1 Kings 6:37-38]
  • There are seven annual holy feast days observed under the Law of the Sinai Covenant [Leviticus 23:1-44]
  • The Feast of Passover is the 1st month of the liturgical year but the seventh month of the civil year. [Exodus 12:1-2]
  • The Feast of Tabernacles completes the cycle of Holy Days in the seventh month of the liturgical year.[Leviticus 23:33-43]
  • There are multiple sevens in the Book of Revelation: There are 55 sevens and 5 sevenths, 5×7 (35) phrases of sevens in the Book of Revelation.  List of “sevens” in the Book of Revelation:

The teaching up to that point in the “LAW” was an “eye for an eye; a tooth for a tooth”; in other words, in charity inflict only equal damage to your enemy. Never exceed it. THAT was MAN”S way; NOT God’s.

Exodus 21: 22-24

[22] “If men quarrel, and one strike a woman with child, and she miscarry indeed, but live herself: he shall be answerable for so much damage as the woman’ s husband shall require, and as arbiters shall award. [23] But if her death ensue thereupon, he shall render life for life. [24] Eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot, [25] Burning for burning, wound for wound, stripe for stripe.”

This was a logical, and seemingly fair and just response; even showing restraint. BUT it was NOT God’s way; what God desired in perfection.

{Now back to the Gospel reading/teaching}

Jesus answered, “I say to you, not seven times but seventy-seven times. {Meaning a never ending amount of times}…. That is why the Kingdom of heaven may be likened to a king who decided to settle accounts with his servants.

When he began the accounting, a debtor was brought before him who owed him a huge amount. Since he had no way of paying it back, his master ordered him to be sold, along with his wife, his children, and all his property, in payment of the debt.
At that, the servant fell down, did him homage, and said, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back in full.’

Moved with compassion the master of that servant
let him go and forgave him the loan

When that servant had left, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a much smaller amount. He seized him and started to choke him, demanding,
‘Pay back what you owe.’ Falling to his knees, his fellow servant begged him,
‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.’

But he refused. Instead, he had the fellow servant put in prison until he paid back the debt.

Now when his fellow servants saw what had happened, they were deeply disturbed, and went to their master and reported the whole affair. His master summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you your entire debt because you begged me to.

Should you not have had pity on your fellow servant,
as I had pity on you?’

Then in anger his master handed him over to the torturers until he should pay back the whole debt.

So will my heavenly Father do to you, unless each of you forgives his brother from his heart.” End QUOTES

Luke.6:[32] “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them

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